Saturday, May 19, 2018

The Good Soldier

This week started off badly for my husband. Eric is a good soldier.  He is punctual, follows directions, and plays by the rules.  He's squared away with a buck fifty in the bank and a head full of facts and figures that keep us all safe and secure.  There is a sense of trust and calm that he brings to the table which allows me to breathe easy, knowing that at the end of the day, there is a man in this world who would move heaven and earth just to see me smile. 

Unfortunately, Eric doesn't always control said world and there are people on the planet who take advantage of such a good man. At work this week, he was once again being a good soldier but that meant putting everything aside in order to deal with unreasonable, unrealistic, and unfair.  And by "putting everything aside", I mean his health, his sanity, and us.  Frustrated, overtired, and stressed, I looked at the man who owns my heart and wondered, at what cost?

Taking a step in the pool of his mind, I realized how little Eric does without considering the weight of responsibility and commitment to others that rides on his shoulders.  Always two steps ahead, his corporate ladder supports those on his team from the top of the company, down.  At home, he has his family, friends, extended family, and others who he tends to and cares for.  The house, the yard, the cars, the timeliness of things, he is that guy.

I love Eric, wholeheartedly. I want my husband to enjoy, experience, and explore anything and everything that he wants in life but it's hard to find even a moment to ask, what do you need, my love? I'm here and I'm asking.  After all, I'd move heaven and earth for that guy too.


10 comments:

  1. What a lovely love letter....to a man who loves you with all his being....hugs abby

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    1. Thanks Abby. There is something magical about writing love letters. Back in the day, it was so common. Maybe we should all do it more often. :)
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  2. But you realize he wouldn't let you get away with that at work would he? Remind him, when this particular crisis is over that he is HIS HOH too and needs to sit limits for himself too.

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    1. LOL - We did have that conversation PK. Eric's answer was much like my own when faced with similar challenges. "I'm very good at giving advice, but not very good at taking it."
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  3. Well, how sweet are you, girl?! I'm glad he has you... maybe you can suggest he take something off his plate....like hire the mowing of the yard occasionally....It's so hard when our husbands are work-stressed. I hate that, too. It's a helpless feeling. And I agree with PK, too. Hugs! Hang in there!

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    1. Thanks Windy. I know when I have too much on my plate, Eric makes me sit with him at the kitchen table and map out everything that needs to be done, wants to be done, and likes to be done. We prioritize together. Lately, he's been so wound up jumping from one thing to another, he hasn't had time to take a breath, let alone put things in order. Aside from making it known that I'm here for whatever he needs, I am not quite sure what else I can do...
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  4. Sometimes the strongest, those who provide strength and support for everyone else, forget about the one person they need to support the most ... and that is themselves ... tho' easier said than done, right?

    I am sure knowing you are there for him when he comes home, helps him to get through his day ... hugs! ... nj

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    1. Hi NJ. When Eric and I met, I had been single for a very long time and I always did everything myself. I didn't even know how to have someone do something for me. He, especially through this dynamic, has taught me that it's okay to have someone love and care for me. Only recently have I begun to notice how much I need to turn that around and teach him that it's okay to take care of himself as well. At the very least, let me help!
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  5. What a lovely post Amy. I agree with the others. Those who support and provide strength for others often forget themselves. How wonderful Eric has you in his corner :)

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    Roz

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    1. Hey Roz, Eric never asks for anything so I've decided to try reaching out and coming up with things I can take off his plate. He did have a marketing piece that needed to be glued for work. He had a large back of them in the trunk of his car and while he was working on the yard, I took and finished them. I haven't told him. Just put them back in the car. Hopefully that will be a good surprise!
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