Sunday, May 20, 2018

It's the Little Things

The little things have been chipping away at the deliciousness of life.  Late night meetings, unexpected stress inducers, and disgruntled nastiness not between us but surrounding us.  I mentioned, mid-week, that this would never get better unless and until we made the effort to change it.

"Who cares about all of the crap around us? Yes, to the extent that we can't damage our careers, livelihood, and responsibilities, of course, but at what cost? We need to stay close and strong and healthy.  Whether we work ourselves to death or take breaks and stay sane, the battles at our jobs will always be there. We need to put our relationship ahead of the things that piece by piece destroy us."

Eric didn't disagree and I half expected him to book the next flight to Hawaii for ten days in the sand. Instead, he continued to put us on the back burner and jump through hoops to manage the madness being thrown at him. Or so I thought...

The little things have been adding to the deliciousness of life.

Eric had another insane day on Wednesday.  He texted halfway through, "I want to spank you."  This wasn't about anything I had done but more about what he needed.  Of all things, I could barely handle that spanking and it wasn't even a hard one.  I was wimpy woo-butt and we both ended up laughing about what a wuss I had become beneath a hairbrush that used to clear my mind. Eric brushed my hair and then over his knee I went. We both found peace with a lovely hand spanking.

Thursday, I was told to lie naked on the bed and spread my legs, ten minutes before Eric was heading to a late night meeting.  Kisses on my inner thighs, his tongue dancing in, out, and around those spaces that make me grasp the sheets and gasp in waves of pleasure.  When I came, Eric held me tighter than ever, his face beaming as he showered me with love.  Short on time, I had spoken up rather than being a silent partner.  He was thrilled and I was to the moon.

Friday Eric was out the door long before I had to leave so I decided to start my day with a hot bubble bath.  I used up the last of my favorite soap, grapefruit scented Gloomaway, and thought about how refreshing it was to relax in the morning.  Going to brush my teeth, I opened the cabinet and there, on the shelf, was a replacement bottle left by a man who pays attention. Aww. Eric!

Saturday I had to work most of the day.  Everything was chugging along and then I heard the door open and looked up to see who was coming in from across the room.  It was Eric!  Completely unexpected and unplanned, my husband just dropped by to say hello. I was glowing, butterflies and smiles like a school girl with a crush. I ended up working three extra hours simply because I was flying high.

What I've learned this week is the little things add up and become big things in life.  It is our choice, to focus on the sour tasting drama and allow it to chip away and bit by bit destroy us. Or, it is our choice to extend and savor the sweet little things that keep us bouncing through the clouds, partaking in the deliciousness of it all.

 Amy

14 comments:

  1. Hi Amy, nice post. I think once we learn to overcome the little stresses, ttwd becomes a much more successful tool in our lives. It is using it to work with the lives we have to lead, rather than thinking we don't have time to include it.
    love Jan, xx

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    1. You are so right, Jan. If we are having insanity in our world, taking even ten minutes for a quick spanking changes everything. Little time, big results.
      Amy

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  2. Amy,
    Great post! Jack says it is all about the little things and he is right. Ignore the things swirling around you and take care of one another. Your guy is right there for you.
    Meredith

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    1. "Swirling around" - you made me think of a tornado and lately life seems to be that chaotic. That said, if we take the time to find the eye of the storm, we can breathe through it together. :)
      Amy

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  3. Awwwww, that is so sweet. It really is about the little things. Hugs...

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  4. Hi Amy ... Sweet Eric ... what a thoughtful man. On the other hand, it's obvious you bring him/give him what he needs to get through all the work crap he is dealing with ... hold tight ... this too shall pass ... nj

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    1. Thanks NJ. Eric pays very close attention to me and I am often surprised at how intuitive he is when it comes to giving me exactly what I need even before I've figured it out. I wish I could do more for him. Sometimes I feel clueless as to what he wants for himself the most but that stems from him taking such good care of everything, he hides his own needs. I'm trying to get him to see that it's okay, even better, when he lets me in too. I love doing stuff with/for him.
      Amy

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  5. You're right, Amy, it is a choice. Thanks for your sweet and lovely "Eric and Amy get reacquainted kinky style" story! And, a wimpy woo-butt, huh? Very interesting.... had much more to do with where your brain was which was in a sensitive and emotional spot .... that made it harder on that other place... sit spot. LOL Happy for you! Thanks for sharing your tale of deliciousness!!! :)

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    1. I think you are right, Windy. When I've buckled down during a punishment I've taken a heck of a lot more. This time, we just jumped in and I couldn't handle a darn thing. Too funny.
      Amy

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  6. What a lovely post Amy. I'm sorry life has been so crazy and full of outside drama for both of you. How wonderful that you are both continuing to pay attention to each other and remain connected and focussed on each other through it all.

    The little things aren't actually that little and do add up to a lot. How sweet of Eric to replace your favourite soap and to visit you at work :)

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. Good afternoon Roz! I am truly touched by every gesture Eric has made this week but what has resonated the most with me is that I told him what I thought about us taking the time to stay close rather than letting those around us control our situation. He obviously heard me.
      Amy

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  7. This is especially lovely as that it shows the way ttwd can support both people in the relationship even through stress and troubling times. Eric gets a round of applause from me.

    Hugs From Ella

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    1. Eric and I believe so much in the partnership of things and ttwd is right there as well. It's good for us to be able to help each other out.
      Amy
      PS- Eric just took a bow. LOL

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