Saturday, March 10, 2018

March Matters: Questions from Deena

How do you explain your need for a spanking so that Eric understands? Here's my question for Eric: How do you know when Amy needs a spanking?


Amy: When Eric and I got close enough that we could tell each other anything in the world, even the things that were hard to admit to ourselves, it was easy.  I had been self disciplining for years. When I told Eric what I did, when, and the results that I got, he was immediately willing to explore the possibility of him stepping in and becoming that helping hand so to speak. I think every husband wants to be able to help his wife when she is overwhelmed or not being her best self.  Eric really took the time to understand what spanking did for me and then we were both surprised as to what it added to both of our lives. In the beginning, there was a lot of research and exploration before we actually did anything and we learned the ways that worked for us overtime.  Initially, I would have been mortified if I had to ask for a spanking.  I'd "brat" my way into one every now and then. I'd push Eric's buttons, taunt, and poke at him; hinting around that it would be a good time. Then once when he was about to leave for a long trip, we clashed.  He was sure I was terribly unhappy about him going and I just wanted a good sound reset to keep me chugging along while he was gone.  The long story short is, that was the worst trip ever because he was thinking one thing and I was thinking something else.  Now, if Eric doesn't pick up on me getting out of control or really needing a trip over his knee, I tell him and he comes through like a champ.  I still like it when he "catches" me off guard or being "bad" in a playful way.  The hardest spankings are the ones where I screwed up and Eric knows the punishment is the only way I'll let go of the guilt.  Oh my goodness.  I've been rambling!  Did I even answer your question?!  "ERIC!  It's time!!! Losing my mind again."


Eric: Three things: the amount of time that's gone by since the last time. How she's reacting to things in her life. Or, when she flat out tells me. 


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Can you think of a question you'd like answered in March? It is March! Perfect time to ask it.

11 comments:

  1. Glad you were so straightforward with your response, Amy. You really need to work on Eric's rambling though, he just seems to have the gift to gab! :)

    Appreciate your honest answers and perspective.
    --Baker

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    1. Haha. Yes, the man of many words. I suppose when we said Eric 51% and Amy 49%, we weren't calculating who was doing most of the talking!
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  2. That is so very cool. I love that you have this relationship.

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    1. Me too. I've waited my whole life for this adorable man to step into it and now, he's here.
      Amy

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  3. Thanks for this window into your lives...hugs abby

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  4. Thank you for your response. We are very slowly moving in the TTWD world so I am learning from everyone. One common thread seems to be: communication. We will keep working on that!

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    1. Hi Deena,
      It really is about communicating and finding the thing that works for both of you. I spent way too many years of my life not saying what I wanted or needed. Finally, I have a partner who not only cares enough to find out what's on my mind, but loves me enough to make it a reality. Best of luck on your journey.
      Amy

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  5. Hi Amy,I enjoyed reading your answer to this. I think it's awesome you and Eric talked it through and researched before diving in :)

    Hugs
    Roz

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  6. I loved both your answers to Deena's question. I glad you don't have to push Eric's buttons anymore or brat for a spanking.
    Hugs Lindy xx

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  7. Hi Amy, I am so loving Eric'a answers, never fails to make me laugh. I wish he had a blog!
    love Jan, xx

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