Thursday, March 8, 2018

March Matters: Olivia's Question

When did you first realize that spanking was something that you wanted? Is there a story that goes with that?

Amy: I remember way back, as a fairly young child, like six years old, watching the neighbor kids get spanked almost on a daily basis.  I was fascinated by it though it was never something I experienced. My parents would never consider talking about, let alone doing it.  I recall finding stories where a spanking took place and reading those passages over and over again.  Whenever someone told a story about being spanked I was mesmerized and would fantasize about it being me instead of them for weeks, months, or even years after I'd heard it.  I can't explain it and I didn't know what to do with it but then a man came along who was very good at grooming me and somehow he tapped into that part of my personality and ended up catapulting me into an extremely abusive relationship that could have cost me everything.  It took years to get away from all of that and I left my fantasies at the door; resorting to self discipline knowing that spanking worked for me but refusing to let anyone ever control me again.  And then came Eric.  We fell in love and got married after he broke down many old walls built in my past. I trusted him more than anyone I've ever met and then one day, we started talking about a spanking story I was reading online while waiting at the library for a study group. One thing led to another and here we are today; with a very healthy ttwd relationship that works incredibly well for both of us.  Eric knows every bit of my past and is so careful not to cross any lines or trigger anything that would adversely affect me.  The biggest surprise to us is that adding this dynamic to our relationship has helped me to let go of a lot of the things that happened in the abusive one. Life is funny that way.  I'm just lucky Eric came along when he did and the way he did.  It enabled us to build a loving and trusting road to an uncommon dynamic that deep down, we both crave.

Eric: When I met Amy and we realized through getting to know each other that it was something we would both enjoy.

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12 comments:

  1. This male for as long as I can remember found spankings interesting. As I got older into my teens I would dream of spanking, as I moved into my 20’s I wanted to be spanked, that I purchased magazines, movies, and would keep it my secret. I dated older women, never brought the subject up, until Joyce, 50 something found my items at my apartment. She and I talked and I opened up and she said it was normal. She then scolded me like a little child for such trash had me stand before her as she sat on a chair and pulled down my pants and underpants and I was erect, she said not for long and that spanking was the greatest and the worse. I danced around the room, rubbing, until she had me face the wall. We dated for several months and then she introduce me to. Woman my age. Our first date at her place she knew of the spankings, and that first date I found she could really give a spanking. We hit it off sexually, but spankings were for punishment. So I got lucky.

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    1. Thank you for sharing your story. Eric and I have been amazed how much we want, see, and enjoy the same things. Lucky for us, he likes to be dominant and I like submitting to him. Oh, and he spanks me so well.
      Amy

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  2. Amy, I love how you answered this question, including the good, the bad, the ugly and the beautiful aspects.
    --Baker

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    1. Just like everything in life, this is another all inclusive!
      Amy

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  3. Hi Amy, What a good explanation, nice...
    love Jan,xx

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    1. Hi Jan!
      It is what it is. I can't explain it but that's how it came about.
      Amy

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  4. Oh, that's so cool, Amy, I love your answer and I can totally relate to it!! I get spanked as a child but not real often and not in a "you're going to get spanked" kind of way - more like a swat on the butt here and there. BUT, just like you, at a young age, I was fascinated by descriptions of spankings in books, read them over and over, and could tell you about some of them even today. Like you, I tried sharing that secret with some people who weren't trustworthy and that didn't work out so well, so I just tried to ignore that part of myself. Until I discovered a world in which it was safe to admit how I felt. But the childhood fascination gets me big time - how is that??? How does that work?

    Thanks so much for your answer!!

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    1. Hi Olivia,
      I used to wonder about the "how is it" of it all. I'd role out all kinds of theories to Eric and then one day he said, "What if there is no why? What if it's just a part of you?" I stopped trying to explain it or understand it anymore. I just enjoy it now. It truly comes down to having the right partner. I feel lucky. Eric is incredible.
      Amy

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    2. Yep, I think you're right. :)

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  5. Hi Amy,

    Such an honest and heartfelt answer. Thank you for sharing this with us. I'm so glad you were able to overcome the past and that you two now have the wonderful relationship you do.

    Hugs
    Roz

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  6. Thank you Roz,
    As Eric says, every experience we have makes us who we are today. He loves who I am so even the bad things served a purpose.
    Amy

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  7. A wonderful post, I have come to accept it just is a part of who I am...a part of me that might never have come to light...and I am so happy it did. hugs abby

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