Saturday, January 13, 2018

Baker's Questions - Thanks Baker!

1.  Are you an introvert or extrovert or somewhere in between?  What about your HOH?
Extrovert X 2! At the end of the day, we both thrive on being out in the world, building relationships and collaborating with others.  

2.  At what age did you realize that spanking was something you were into and at what length did you go to hide it?  Did your HOH know?  For those of you who began your marriage with spanking do you think anything from your childhood help you be more accepting of the spanking lifestyle.
My parents did not spank us but the neighbors got in trouble on a regular basis and I recall being fascinated by their stories and even by witnessing a trip over a knee once.  I read as many books as I could find that had spanking scenes in them as early as 4th or 5th grade but I never let anyone know.  When I was in my late 30's, I got into a bad relationship with a very abusive person who used physical punishment to keep me on task.  I'm sure he got as far as he did because of my internal desire but it was a very unhealthy relationship that left me with many emotional scars.  Eric spent time getting to know me, understanding me, and becoming the guy who would move Heaven and earth for me.  When he built my trust to the point that I could share anything and everything with him, we discovered this similar interest. I think we both feel very fortunate to have found this common desire early on in our marriage.

3.  Do you know of anyone else in your family who practices DD, TTWD, etc.?  And how did you come to learn that they did?
We suspect my younger sibling is at least into the playful side of spanking.  She and her boyfriend had a few flirty swats in our kitchen not too far back and he's occasionally popped her backside as we've made our way through town now and then.  They always think we don't notice but things stand out, you know?  She even has the infamous "hairbrush" that we all seem to purchase at Target one day or another. ;)


4.  Are you a homebody or outgoing?
I am a homebody for sure, for about two days a month.  Otherwise I go crazy if I'm not out doing... anything but sitting still.

5.  How do you view blogging?  Is it an outlet?  A way you process?
Blogging is definitely an outlet for me.  I want to and should be a writer.  My head is full of stories and someday I hope to be consistent enough to actually turn them all into books.  In the meantime, blogging is a great way to get words on paper.


6.  What tendencies do you see in your DD or TTWD friends and bloggers?
Most of the women I have come to know through blogging are extremely strong individuals who get a mental and emotional break from running the world through relationships with supportive men who understand the powerful relief that comes from a good old fashioned spanking. :)


7.  Are you a lover of the printed word?
Yes

8.  Do you view yourself as a submissive?
I would never describe myself as submissive and I don't think Eric would either.  That could be the reason, when I do submit to him, it is so meaningful for each of us.

9.  Last question.  What traits do you see in your HOH that help you follow his lead?
Eric puts my best interest first, even if it goes against his personal desire.  For that reason alone, I never question when he makes a decision about my well being.  He's squared away, smart as can be, and a strong MAN in every sense of the word.  I trust him and that says a lot because trust has been a hard thing for me to have since long before I met him.  He knows me so well, though.  Oh, and that voice, those words, his hands and the way I feel across his lap and in his arms, under his direction, ahhhhh. Magic.

Thanks again Baker!  
Amy

16 comments:

  1. Really loved your answers Amy especially no 9. Very sweet!
    Hugs Lindy xx

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    1. Thanks Lindy. Hope you are enjoying the summer weather. Got 16 inches of snow this week!
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  2. Great answers Amy! That's true about many strong women being attracted to DD or some type of power exchange. It's a relief to have a place where we don't have to be in control!

    Jlynne

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    1. With work and kids and responsibilities out the ying yang, it is incredible to get that swift release without the side affects that psychiatric drugs, alcohol, or other traditional stress releavers cause.
      Amy

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  3. Love your answers...they all made my smile wider..and girl...get writing, I could help you edit...start with a short story..and if you want a professional editor or one with experience, I will not mind! hugs abby

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    1. If I could get myself into some sort of routine that included writing, I would take you up on that in a heartbeat! Seems I can barely get on the blog. Grrr. Where is my sense of commitment?!
      Amy

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  4. Thanks for answering these. Your answer to #2 interest me. I've always wondered and worried that women with our desires could easily end up in an abusive situation. I'm glad you were able to escape from that.

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    1. Of course, once I was fully out of the abusive relationship, it was easy to look back and see where the grooming began and set in. I feel very lucky to have met Eric. He knows about my past relationship and as a result has been extremely cautious about making sure our dynamic never infringes on my personal power. He wants me to stay strong and independent yet understands the side of me that needs him to take control at times.
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  5. This was so lovely, Amy. You really gave us a window into your head. I most enjoyed your story of how Eric came into your life. You were so lucky that he rode in on a white horse and claimed you as his. The trust is something very special.

    Hugs From Ella

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    1. You are so right, Ella. There is no way to have a truly safe and respectful relationship, especially with the involvement of spanking and physical punishment, if there isn't the utmost of trust between both partners. My trust was completely betrayed in the abusive relationship and as a result, it was over five years before I could open myself entirely to another man the way I have to Eric. He is the only person on this planet whom I have shared so much of my soul with.
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  6. Loved reading this & your responses. Thank you

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    1. Thank you for the comment and for reading, Ashley. I get on here so infrequently now. It's nice to know you are all still out there.
      Amy

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  7. Thanks so much for joining in and partcipating, Amy! I loved reading your answers and getting insight into that brain of yours. I especially loved your response to the last one. You've got a winner there with Eric.
    --Baker

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    1. This was a really insightful set of questions you came up with, Baker. It was great reading everyone else's answers and I got to take some time to reflect on my own past. Sparked some good conversation with Eric as well. Yay.
      Amy

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  8. These are great answers, thanks for sharing them. I love how you describe your guy. From all you’ve written he sounds like he is crazy about you, just as it should be.

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    1. Hi Laurel,
      No doubt, Eric and I are crazy about each other. He's the kind of guy I can say anything to without fear of being made fun of, I can ask anything of without being made to feel needy, and I can play with anytime without being told I'm immature. We have far too little time together with our crazy schedules but the plan is to change that in due time.
      Amy

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