Monday, August 21, 2017

That Spankin' Thing

We were in a meeting, barely knew each other, and I'd walked in with a freshly concocted beet juice. It was terrible.  I made a face and the man at the end of the table gave me a look.

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"You made it," he warned, gesturing to the glass mason jar in my hand, "You better drink the whole thing."

"Who does he think he is?!" I thought, confused by the warm tingling feelings I had as I sucked down the rest of the juice under his watchful eye.

Months later, we had lunch at a restaurant with two other men far above my pay grade.  I picked at my plate while the conversation droned on and on about topics that meant nothing to me.  The man at the end of the table sent me a text.

"You better finish everything on that plate, young lady."

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Once again, "Who the hell does he think he is?!" I thought and blushed but said yes to a first date when he walked me to the car.

Little hints.  Little signs.  He spoke them, gestured, had that presence about him but never knew what his actions were doing to me.  I kept my secrets buried.  We married.  He never knew.

Fast forward to the library.  He went with me and hung out while I worked with a study group.  I got there early, was reading on my phone, when he came up behind me.

"Who is Matt Anglin?" he inquired.

I shared the spanking stories I'd been reading for years.  He spent his time in the library researching and we left full of interesting conversation, enticed by others, and admitting our own inner desires.

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The blog was born.  We experimented.  I thrived.  He did too.

Makes me wonder... how did you first figure out that spankin' thing?

Amy

18 comments:

  1. Hi Amy, I have always known for years that it was my thing. After Fifty Shades came out hubby saw it advertised in a newspaper article and said, "there's one for you". A while after that I asked him and hey presto here we are almpst five years later.
    love Jan, xx

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    1. Isn't that interesting? Our partners pick up on the things that work for us and even though it can take years before moving forward, one little instance can change it all. Thankfully, for the better. Amy

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  2. Hi Amy,:) I enjoyed reading this post about your beginnings! Loved how Eric was on top of you finishing your juice and food from the start. I like juicing too, but beet juice... I hear you. It's very earthy, and if it is not mixed with the right combo of other juices...

    In some ways, deep down, perhaps I may have had some inkling of "the spankin' thing". Fifty Shades, and a whole lot of time on my hands, as I was often away caring for my parents during that time, led me down the path to a greater... sexual awareness. Rob took no time at all to come on board. As for the spanking part- he took right to that too, first as play, and then in addition to play. It all developed gradually. It's how we live now. We both LOVE it! Many hugs,

    <3 Katie

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    1. Hi Katie,

      There are so many books out there but I think 50 Shades being so main stream suddenly opened up possibilities for a lot of couples.

      By the way, I've gotten much better at my beet juice. I've even got a carrot, orange, beet combo that Eric will drink!

      Amy

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  3. Thanks for sharing this, Amy. I always call those getting started memories our "Chapter One" stories. BTW I have read all the books published by Jacqueline Omerta. Sam even read one.

    Ella

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    1. Hi Ella, I need to read the rest of JO's books because it is incredibly interesting from the psychological side of things. Curious as to which one Sam read? Eric's a research type. He devours literature when the topic is of interest. He reads until he becomes the expert and then he's off to other things.
      Amy

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  4. I honestly didn't know. Over 5 years ago I just knew I wanted a closer connection with Barney. I had googled something about husbands ( after trying many things- which worked a bit) and came across a blog called Husbandly Touch, and a blogger, who I miss dearly named Keevan. From there I found another blog who eventually introduced me to my dear friends Lillie and Ian ( and eventually Susie). I read how Lillie and Ian transformed their marriage after 30 years through Dd. I decided why not? It is such a shame that Lillie and Ian are not longer active in the community because their help/advice was unparelled IMHO.
    When I eventually proposed the idea to Barney he wasn't completely shocked. He said, " I am not surprised. Though I am a little at the arena in which you want to bring about change". He went on to tell me that all of my closest friends were what he discribed as Alpha Males, and how I change (let my guard down) around them. It was initially thought I was attracted to them, but was later informed by a vanilla-ish friend and one such Alpha Male, that I attract them to me 'like a moth to a flame' LMAO! Guess it is 'fun' to boss me around. snort
    Anyway, while spanking has it's place at times to me it is far more about the little aspects of dominance that has me where I want to be. I can out stubborn a spanking if I am in that mindset. I loose some of my submissiveness without those "eat your breakfast", "you are not going on the computer today", "I expect you to...." times and once that happens a spanking can equal attacking an armoured truck with a nerf bat. Resets here do wonders, but punishments- well generally speaking those physical ones are more for Barney ( guess he had a secret that he didn't know about either! lol). I can get the same submissive feeling after writing lines for 3 hours, cleaning the house with a plug, having things I like taken away, being told to write a journal entry explaining my feelings, because he has dominated my mental will ( I often battle in my head " I am SO not doing that....only to do it lol).

    So maybe a little more than you asked for...a little of what you experienced and I guess a lot of other stuff...LOL

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    1. Great answer, Willie. I guess the most pleasant surprise for me was in discovering that Eric also had the inner desire and secret need to be on the dominant side of it all. I remember in one of our conversations, really early on, he said something like, "Don't worry, I'd never spank you hard enough to leave a mark." I was soooo disappointed but didn't want to push something that would be taboo or against his boundaries. That's sure changed. We are certainly not about bruising for the sake of it but have each discovered different styles of spanking are good in different situations. The reset keeps me even keeled and happy. Sexually, we can have a hell of a time when spanking is included. And as for punishment, Eric saves me from living in a world of guilt through the occasional hard discipline. It makes both of our lives better.
      Amy

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  5. I've always been a little wacky and wanting to try a little of everything ... but I think what hooked me on DD was the same blog Willie mentioned above, Husbandly Touch. I read DD blogs for at least a year (most likely longer) before I finally bit the bullet and brought it to hubby.

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    1. I think it was in my head as far back as five or six years old but if brought to the wrong person, what a disaster that would be. My first husband, for example. No way in H-E-L-L.
      Amy

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  6. I always had in inkling..enjoyed reading about it and fantasizing....never associated it with submission, until after I met M. hugs abby

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  7. It is what it is - an internal need.
    Amy

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  8. Enjoyed reading how you started Amy and Eric. We dabbled in spanking when young, put in on hold until the kids grew up. Once FSG was published it fired things up dramatically.
    Hugs Lindy xx

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  9. Wow Lindy, FSG seems to have ignited the ttwd fire for a ton of couples. Amazing what one book can put in the minds of so many.
    Or maybe it was just the conversation starter for something that was already in our thoughts.
    Amy

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  10. I loved hearing your memories...for me I have always known somehow spanking is a part of me though I may not have always understood...for my husband it is not necessarily within him but he loves me and so we play together and when we do we both have fun and feel the connection it brings...I miss that feeling - it has been a while... :-)

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    1. I find the "feeling" incredible as well and was quite pleasantly surprised to discover the whole thing is equally good for Eric. When we go through periods without it, due to lack of time or whatever, I go back and write about some of our experiences. Helps with the down times.
      Amy

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  11. I somehow have loss your email..could you send me a short note...thanks! hugs abby

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